When your loved one is dealing with Alzheimer's or dementia, their symptoms and behavior may be difficult for you to understand. The suggestions below can help you give your loved one the care and support they need.
Accepting your loved one's means:
- Set limits
- Take responsibility and leadership
- Provide direction
- React to their behavior in an adult manner
- Do not embarrass them
We cannot understand everything and that is OK!
- Accept that we cannot understand everything.
- Be truthful and genuine as long as it does not hurt or harm your loved one.
- They will notice if this is not done and will reject or withdraw.
- Enable them to have a small feelings of success.
Create a reliable daily routine with small rituals:
- Washing hands
- Saying prayers
- Preparing food
- Cleaning and singing
Incorporate former habits, memories and items to hold which represent something in their life. Focus on the "experience", not the result. Feeling good preserves the feeling of being a person. As Alzheimer's advances, the body becomes the focus. Here are some things you can do to help your loved one feel safe and secure:
- Physical closeness
- Touching hands
- Gestures and eye contact
- Showing your own feelings creates a warm sense of security, closeness and comfort.
Try to communicate attentive calmness:
- Allow unusual behavior and reduce your rejection of bizarre behavior
- Resist the impulse to intervene and ask yourself from time to time 'what is the meaning of a particular behavior and what pleasure is behind it.'
Obtain relief for yourself: Take care of your own body, your relationships and interests. The sooner you accept help, the longer you can be a partner to your loved one.